“A prison custody officer has been suspended and arrested by Northamptonshire police on suspicion of misconduct in a public office,” a spokesperson for HMP Five Wells said. “It would be inappropriate to comment further while they investigate.”

The footage – which was shared among inmates and with a number of people on the outside – allegedly shows the female warden performing a sex act, before having sex with the male prisoner. It is unclear whether the woman knew she was being recorded.

The prisoner has since been transferred to another prison.

This story is incredibly similar to another case from the UK earlier this year, when a 30-year-old female prison officer was filmed having sex with an inmate in a cell at south London’s HMP Wandsworth.

The video, which was posted on social media, was filmed by a third inmate who tells the pair as they’re having sex, “Guys we’ve made history, this is what I’m telling you.” Later on in the five-minute video, he adds, “This is how we roll in Wandsworth.”

The woman was identified by prison staff as Linda De Sousa Abreu, arrested at Heathrow Airport – and convicted of misconduct in a public office.

Tetteh Turkson, of the Crown Prosecution Service, said, “This was a shocking breach of the public’s trust. De Sousa was clearly an enthusiastic participant who wrongly thought she would avoid responsibility.

“The CPS recognises there is no excuse for any prison officer who conducts themselves in such a manner, and we will never hesitate to prosecute those who abuse their position of power.”

According to LBC, 29 female prison guards have been fired for having sex with prisoners in the UK over the past three years.

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Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, a sex expert and professor at the University of California, Fullerton, recently told The Daily Mail that going even just one month without can cause stress, anxiety, depression, and anger. Those negative emotions also affect your ability to enjoy it once you do finally get down to business.

“Stressed-out people don’t have the capacity to enjoy sex,” Suwinyattichaiporn added. Even more concerningly, a 2021 study in the “Journal of Criminal Justice” drew a correlation between sexual frustration and acts of violence.

some benefits of regular sex

For couples, regular sex can also help to manage emotions and maintain the relationship, added sex therapist Sari Cooper.

“[People who aren’t having sex] don’t approach their partner with softness, vulnerability, and requests for compromise,” she explained. “They also don’t have the technique to repair conflicts and instead blame one another, pursue the other with continuous criticism, or elicit a guilty response in order to get their needs met.”

While dry spells are normal, Cooper notes that going too long without sex can have harmful long-term effects on a couple.

“Sometimes one partner may ask to open up the relationship so they can get their needs met in an ethical manner, and other partners may just have an outside sexual infidelity to meet the needs,” she noted.

As for the physical benefits, a Harvard Medical study found that men who ejaculate 21 times or more per month lowered their risk of prostate cancer by a third. In more extreme cases, Suwinyattichaiporn added, dry spells of five years or more can even lead to penile or vaginal atrophy, causing the genitals to shrink slightly.

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Wordle (NSFW Edition)

Step one: don’t make any assumptions. We’re not all the same, so even if you’ve slept with one trans person, what works for them might not work for your next paramour. For example, I slept with someone once who referred to my genital area with a word a previous partner had enjoyed. That word made me cringe so hard that the my thighs slammed shut, sex over, no thank you, nuh-uh, ew gross, no thank you. I won’t repeat what it was here, because like I said, even though that word is an absolute mood killer for me, it’s perfectly fine for many other folks. So fine, in fact you’ll probably see it if you frequent enough porn sites. 

In practice, that just means have a conversation about words. Things come up when you’re getting down, and it’s always better to know beforehand what words and terms will turn your partner on (not off). The sentiment you’re trying to express here is simple: “Are there any words you like using or don’t like using for your genitals and/or erogenous zones?” Of course that’s not what I usually say, because I’m not a psychopath. Instead, I usually go with something like “are there any sexual words you like or don’t like?” I recently had someone ask “what terms do you prefer for stuff below the belt?” which is a fantastic way to frame that question, A-plus, 10/10, please see me after class.

If you’re like me and you’re a big big slut, you might want to go for a saucier approach—if your relationship with this person is already erotically charged. For instance, I might do some heavy-duty grade-A flirting, then lean in close and ask something like “where are some places you might want me to put my mouth later?” It all depends on at what point in your relationship you’re asking these questions (moments before sex, or before it’s ever even on the table?). For me (again, big slut) I opt for “in the vicinity of sex,” typically. Are we already on the topic? Are we sexting and I need to fill in the blank before I send you a message so shockingly filthy you’ll drop your phone and it’ll hit your boner on the way down? Be smart, err on the side of caution. 

Between a Rock and a Wet Place

There are some words and terms that are easy to overlook, though. Specifically things like “suck” or “eat,” and “hard” or “wet.” When there are words for things that you might typically associate with a vulva or phallus specifically, consider if those words might have gendered connotations before using them. As always, it’s best to ask. 

At this point, you might be asking yourself: “jeez is this whole article just telling me to ask questions and be courteous?” Yes, actually. That is kind of the whole thing. Consent is a conversation, it’s not an implication, it’s not subtle, it’s not subtext. It’s spoken clearly and unambiguously, it’s enthusiastic. That’s what all of this is about: consent. Consent to use certain words, consent to touch certain places, consent to touch those places in a certain way. 

Other words you might want to check on before you hit the sheets: Good girl, good boy, mommy, daddy, master, mistress, etc. If you’ll be engaging in any kind of kink, advanced conversations about consent should be a breeze for you, just make sure you touch on anything that’s even remotely gendered. The answer might surprise you. For instance, I once knew a trans man who liked to be called a good girl while he was all tied up, and the girly-girliest, most femme trans girl you ever met who was daddy in the bedroom. 

Talkin’ Bodies

A trans person’s relationship to their body can be a very complicated thing. A trans person wanting to share that body with another person, trans or not, is a gift. Even if it’s a no-strings-attached hookup with a stranger. Vulnerability doesn’t always come easy to us, so when it’s offered make sure you treat it with care and respect. Especially if you’d ever like it to be offered again. Which brings us to our next lesson: touching and sensation.

There is truly nothing hotter than checking in with your partner about how they like to be touched or where they like to be touched. Even if you think the answer will be an unequivocal “yes, fuck, yes,” asking before touching gives you both a moment of anticipation to enjoy and it also allows your partner (trans or not) the chance to redirect your attentions or tell you about a specific trigger of theirs. This is something you should do with everyone, and I guarantee it will make your sex life better by about 1000%. For real, ask your partner “can I put this in my mouth” or “can I touch you here” and they are going to quiver with delight. 

It’s extra important to do this with a trans partner because there might be ways they’ve been touched in the past (when presenting as a different gender) that they don’t enjoy. If you have a dick, and your trans partner has one too, don’t assume they enjoy the same kinds of sensations. 

There are a lot of changes a trans person’s body may have undergone during their monthly transformation on the night of the blood moon. Surgeries, hormones, ancient curses laid upon their bloodline. All these things have one thing in common: They’re nobody’s business. Don’t ask about surgery, don’t ask about hormones, definitely don’t ask about the blood-curse. If we want to talk about any of those things, we will. 

Okay, if you’re not allowed to ask about them, why did I bring them up? Well, that’s easy. To tell you not to bring them up. Duh. Okay, there’s also another reason, and it’s important—so you and your genitals better listen up. Hormones, surgeries, lycanthropy—these can all make physical changes to a trans person’s body. So you may have thought, because of all this, I should touch a trans woman’s body the way I’d touch a woman’s body. And, you’re right—but the way you touch a trans person has nothing to do with the medical minutiae of their biology (and everything to do with the way they want to be touched). Which, remember, you should be discussing before and during the act. Because if they want something that you haven’t thought to try, asking how they like to be touched will give them an opening to tell you. 

What Not To Do

Don’t ask about surgeries. Don’t ask about hormones. Don’t ask about their birth or dead name. Don’t ask how long they’ve been X, Y, or Z gender. Don’t ask “did you always know?” type questions. If we want you to know any of these things, we will likely volunteer them at some point. It’s not enough to pose the question and then back off and say something like “but you don’t have to answer, of course,” because you’ve then put the decision on us to deny you information. Just don’t. 

Secondly, don’t ask us about being trans or what being trans is like. This one is mostly for cis folks. If that’s a conversation we want to have, we’ll bring it up. Every trans person you’re ever likely to encounter has spent countless hours explaining that shit to people and it’s exhausting. Most of us probably won’t tell you no if you do ask these things. But I know personally that I always feel a little bit of an obligation to at least provide some kind of answer (in hopes that, if I do, they won’t ask the next trans person they meet the same damn thing). 

That concludes our lesson, for now. I hope this was informative, helpful, and titillating. But most of all I hope you and the trans person you’re reading this about have incredible, amazing, mind-blowingly great sex. 

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The ‘BDSM station’ turns out to be a cork notice board, filled with handwritten notes, in which attendees of tonight’s event outline what they’d like to get from the evening. One man would quite like his girlfriend to watch him have sex with another woman. Another says she would like to be flogged.

Soon, the ‘play space’ will open. But first we must watch as 85 or so ‘worshipers’—dressed in the classic 0 BC style of togas, knight outfits, and sexy lingerie—pack into a salon that’s been turned into a sordid biblical scene by tonight’s hosts: the Holy Eros Institute. Apart from me and the VICE photographer, every guest here has paid top-dollar to be a part of “the untold love story of Mary Magdalene and Jesus, an immersive erotic theater ritual experience.”

‘Temple nights’ like this one are becoming more and more common in tantra scenes around the world. Think of them less like all-out orgies, but as somewhat structured evenings of fruity fun with the aim of exploring sexuality, healing trauma, and, of course, dismantling patriarchy.

We settle down into silence, and a man dressed in white bangs a drum while chanting like a shaman. “Thanking the indigenous elders and wisdom keepers and all of those who have come before us,” he intones. The lady sitting cross-legged beside me remarks quietly that an Orthodox Christian friend considered coming, but when he learned of the performance’s nature, it was a hard no. “He was concerned about all the sacrilegiousness,” she says, making a kind of fussing motion with her hands.

This opening gambit from our heavenly compere continues as a giant wooden ‘X’ is hauled into the room. I can see where this might be going. “Let’s acknowledge the parts of the planet where this story originated from, where there is a lot of pain and destruction,” he says. “Please send your intentions to … Palestine, Lebanon, Israel.” Tonight’s shenanigans, it’s announced, are “part of the change.” How, exactly, is unclear.

Co-producer Phoenix Amara, with a 10 lb ball python draped over her shoulders, lays down the law when it comes to chemicals. “This isn’t quite Eyes Wide Shut, but it could be something like that,” she says to us all. “If you are called [to get high], stick to a psilocybin or marijuana microdose. Things can become chaotic with too many substances. This story is medicine enough.” Earlier, in the invite, she reminded guests, “We’re not gathering with the sole focus of fucking each other … We are gathering to liberate our sensual selves.”

Amara summons the “Princess of Darkness” and a lady in red enters, wearing high heels and accompanied by a male servant—a fallen angel—whom she leads around on a leash. 

The servant removes her long-armed silk gloves, and it gradually becomes clear that the man playing the drum is Jesus Christ. That is to say, two other men grab his arms and legs and affix him spreadeagled to the giant ‘X.’

Then his eyes roll back and he feigns an orgasm.

“We spent millennia being told we were born of sin, the cravings of our loins inherently shameful,” says the Princess of Darkness. “We’re here to tempt you back into the old religion.” The writers of the Bible “were afraid of pussy,” one of my fellow worshipers hisses, disparagingly.

Jesus is uncuffed and led away to who knows where, and now here comes the Virgin Mary, wearing a lacy white dress clad with a flowing veil. Portrayed by tantric performer Cheyenne Sapphire, Mary starts crawling provocatively across a table. “God… is that you?” she inquires to no one in particular. “You’ll do what to me? Oh, OK, I’m ready! Let me give you all of me.” 

Suddenly, she is enacting quite a compelling scene.

“Take me! Take me!” she exclaims, twitching with delight, running her hands down over her breasts. “Oh yes, God.” She bangs on the table and shudders, before flummoxing onto her back. “Once you’ve been fucked so well you see God, you begin to feel things,” narrates the Princess of Darkness, “secrets of the universe begin to appear like breath itself. See her not as a sexless vessel but a goddess who fucked a God.” 

I wonder whether God is listening, if he feels happy or disrespected by the apparent heresy, or by the subtle inference that there is more than one God—an idea largely anathema to monotheistic Christians.

But there isn’t time to consider such lofty questions. Now it’s our turn “to be nursed by the Holy Mother and take a sip of the elixir that raised a boy to become king of kings,” someone declares. This means drinking Mary’s breast milk, represented here by almond milk. Mary purrs appreciative noises as folks slurp up the creamy liquid from their cupped, bare hands.

Abruptly, the story of Jesus fast forwards from his conception to the Last Supper. Jesus—you can follow him on Insta—is seated with a gang of cheeky-looking disciples and “favorite of the favorites,” Mary Magdalene. (After centuries of marginalization, Mary Magdalene was acknowledged as “the apostle to the apostles” by the Catholic Church in 2016, who said she was the first to witness Jesus’ resurrection.)

“They tried to tell you another story!” yells the Princess of Darkness. “They said she was a repented whore! Yet those who risked their lives to give us a taste of ecstasy in a cruel world are doing God’s work.”

In an eyebrow-raising moment, she then likens Jesus and his disciples to an ancient polycule.

“Like all polycules, things got complicated.” And lo, Judas snogs Jesus’ face off, as sinister dance music plays and the traitorous disciple whips our Lord and Savior with a belt and a wand shaped like a crucifix.

Now it’s time to feast, on a banquet of salmon and meat koftas. I chat to one female worshiper who has come without her husband. On the BDSM wall, she had stipulated that she is here to “heal shame” and that while she is open to friendly touch, she is taken, showing me her sapphire ring as proof.

The show resumes, with Mary Magdalene (played by “ritualist” Aubrey Aurora) sitting on Jesus’ lap, appearing to have sex without moving. She looks satisfied. “It’s not just any kind of sex that brings you closer to God,” says the Princess of Darkness. “Some kinds of sex will send you to Hell, but there is a kind of passion that lifts us up to the Heavens.”

Following Jesus’ death, key figures in the formation of Christianity—notably Peter—discredited Mary Magdalene as a “scarlet woman” not to be trusted. (It’s said she was prone to the same ecstatic trances that women were later violently persecuted for, during so-called witch hunts.) This characterization is at the roots of Western oppression of women, we are told, and half a dozen women dressed in red cavort like sexy snakes, gyrating with orgasmic gusto to the tune of an ominous drum beat as the blue-robed Peter is forced to observe these priestesses of sexual energy flexing, as a kind of penance for being a prude old bastard. 

“The holy grail will be waiting for you, if you dare to gaze your eyes upon it,” someone announces. We soon understand that by “holy grail,” they mean Mary Magdalene’s vagina, as we are instructed to hand-write confessions of moments in life when we may have “denied the power of pussy.” We queue up to place these scrawled mea culpas in a copper bowl in front of Magdalene’s spread legs. I try to stare respectfully, and not just blankly ogle her vaginal opening, which is partially obscured by a cord of beads.

Next to me, two priestesses are reciting magic spells in tongues.

It is, to say the least, all rather entrancing. A female sex educator tells me: “It was really magical. I recognised that it moves the world with its power.”

A male attendee has a more prosaic view. “I felt very horny and at peace at the same time,” he offers. “It’s a very nice one.” 

From there, a panoply of activities break out in “the divine dungeon,” from spanking and flogging, to shibari, sensual electrocution, and “wax play.” Others don ball-gags, some are handcuffed, more filter up from the dungeon to the lovers’ room. A threesome between two girls and a guy wearing a collar and leash is in train. 

As the real debauchery gets going, I homed in on Jesus and Mary Magdalene to ask about their previous lives. “At one point, I was going to church five times a week,” says Jesus actor Devaiya Ra. “I prayed the gay away for nine years! I felt like everything that was true to me was wrong and a sin. It was built upon roots of shame.” 

This led to severe depression and suicidal ideations, he recalls—until he came out to his father aged 17 at bible camp, shortly after being enrolled as a youth pastor. His dad graciously accepted the news but others turned their backs: “They said I was blasphemous, a sinner.” Ra believes this kind of erotic retelling of Jesus’ story could destigmatize eroticism and non-hetero relations and even lead to “intergenerational healing.”

Aubrey Aurora, who played Mary Magdalene, had a similar journey, growing up in Oklahoma in the heart of the US bible belt.

She broke with the Church at the younger age of 13, after having sex for the first time. “I used to have a purity ring on this finger, right here, from age five,” she says, adding that often sex is cast as profane. “I wanted to be a good girl, for my parents to be proud of me.” Through her work today, she says she is “bringing back the sacred to the profane, weaving them as one—and getting paid handsomely for it.”

Now for the million-dollar question: How did I do with the pussy gazing? She giggles, and for a moment I fear she has me down as one of those who could not make eye contact, closed their eyes, or even looked away. “Your gaze was quite piercing and your energy was reverent,” Aurora says. “I really enjoyed that moment with you.”  

A moment of relief, at the end of what has been a memorable evening.

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This “sex trend,” as some have called it, unfortunately, isn’t all that new. Known as stealthing, it pretty much involves sneakily removing a condom during sex without your partner knowing. Many view it as a form of rape, with almost 9 in 10 individuals deeming it a form of sexual assault. Not to mention, this could also increase the risk of contracting STIs. Nearly all survey respondents of young people in the UK at least view it as wrong.

Even further, about half of people surveyed believe non-consensual condom removal should be punishable with prison time—especially if it resulted in an unwanted pregnancy. 

“In cases where victims do not discover they have been stealthed, their reproductive health is compromised as they are unable to procure emergency contraception and are therefore at a higher risk of unplanned pregnancy,” the authors of the research explained.

Stealthing is already considered rape in England and Wales. This new survey—which included over 1,700 people aged 18-25—sheds even more light on the prevalent issue and popular “sex trend.” 

Thankfully, a vast majority of respondents do view the trend as a crime.

“I was really pleased to see that most people saw it as a violation of consent and that they thought it was wrong,” said Geraldine Barrett, senior author and a social scientist at University College London’s Institute for Women’s Health. “That was very reassuring [to see] in the population.”

However, different contexts and scenarios revealed different attitudes toward stealthing. For example, slightly more people thought it was less of an issue in a committed relationship versus a casual hookup. Others also thought it was more punishable if the woman became pregnant versus her becoming depressed. 

Regardless of these opinions, stealthing has been legally recognized as a form of rape, as it strips the other person of their right to consent. 

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The unnamed priest was allegedly spending time with a 60-year-old British colleague, when the latter priest became ill. The Belgian priest called authorities after attempts to revive his British pal were unsuccessful, the outlets reported.

“It appears that the two men had used ecstasy and poppers together and had had sex,” the prosecutor’s office told CBS News. “Two ecstasy pills were also found.”

The British man’s cause of death remains undetermined as the autopsy was inconclusive, according to the outlets.

Pope Francis happened to be in Belgium amid the incident. The religious leader was in town to meet with survivors of sexual abuse by church officials in the country. The abuse and subsequent cover up has come to light over the last 25 years, the Associated Press reported.

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Gallery owner Val Harris revealed on Instagram that, after Poppy Baynham’s painting of a nude woman in cowboy boots spreading her legs was placed in the gallery’s window, she “had a visit from the police to discuss whether we would remove it.”

According to the BBC, Dyfed-Powys Police visited the gallery after two complaints. They warned Harris that displaying the painting could be against the Public Order Act of 1986 for causing harassment, alarm, and distress.

Harris was unmoved by the warnings. She opted to keep the painting, which some found “lewd” and others described as “playful,” in her store window.

She did, however, include a sign alongside the painting, encouraging others to share their thoughts on the matter.

“Some people may be offended by the painting ‘This is not P***ography’ in the window. We hear what you say and we would like to open up a dialogue about this issue,” the sign read. “If you would like to contribute to this debate then please write any comments in the book.”

The sign added that the gallery would host a “discussion about the issues around the representation of the nude figure in art.”

After that meeting, Harris and Baynham went live on Instagram to discuss the situation. The women admitted that the painting was “causing a stir” in the area.

“In my opinion, all the women that have something bad to say about the painting aren’t grossed out so much as insecure,” Baynham said. “And it’s sad to see so many women upset by something we all have. Most straight women haven’t seen a vulva, so I see why they might be scared of it. And it’s proving to me that there must be a lot of straight people here in Hay.”

“I think also penises can be seen as comical, while vulva’s are only sexual. The reason why I paint the female body and not the male body is because I want the world to normalise these nonsexual body parts that 50% of the world have,” the artist continued. “This is also the reason why I don’t want to take it down. If I took it down the whole reason why I do art would be thrown back in my face.”

Baynham noted that, when she began her controversial painting, she “didn’t have one thought in my head thinking this would even get commented on.”

“Half the art out there is nudity. So why should I remove it. Why is it inappropriate,” she wondered. “Is it because it’s not a lady like pose? Who made these rules about lady like poses? Men? The world needs to get away from these normative rules and normalise vaginas.”

Baynham’s exhibit closed on September 22, the same day that the controversial painting sold to a local buyer. The artist appears to be taking the situation in stride. In fact, in her Instagram bio, Baynham proudly referred to herself as “the girl with the vagina painting.”

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But one man’s shame is another man’s Shangri-La, and many embrace the transactional gf arrangement for all manner of reasons. Given it’s their job to become a one-night confidante and temporary life-partner to a never-ending procession of guys, we thought we’d chat to a professional girlfriend about the things they’ve learnt about modern men in the process. 

Maddison Fox is a 32-year-old British OnlyFans model, but she also offers an extremely realistic girlfriend experience, be it online or in person. VICE sat down with Fox to discuss some key findings from her time spent in the company of paying johns.

Men want to explore sexual fetishes…

“…but they won’t do it with their girlfriends or wives. I had a really bad one the other day, seriously horrendous, like a rape fantasy. Armpit fetishes. There’s also been some absurd stuff involving gunge. And there’s a thing called vore, which is pretending to eat people and then your stomach gets really bulging and huge. God, there’s so many.”

Men are lonely, even in relationships… 

“Men today are not being their true selves, especially with the people they should be. They’re ashamed of their sexual drive and they’re ashamed of what they’re into. Because of monogamy and how women get jealous, guys are so frightened to upset their girlfriends that they end up not divulging anything and going elsewhere to feed that part of them. Sometimes it is things like pegging, but most of the time it’s just an honest conversation about what they like and how they like it. I think a lot of people who are together today probably shouldn’t be.”

Paying men treat me better and are more honest…

“The guys I actually date treat me like absolute dog shit. Yet when someone’s paying for it, they really see the value. They’re more honest than people in my life who don’t pay, which is a really fucked-up contradiction. They’re chivalrous, they’re kind, they’re generous. They want to worship you. They want to show you how great you are.”

Even if they’re paying, men are still looking for love…

“A lot of the guys interested specifically in the girlfriend experience are looking to fall in love; like, they really want to commit. It’s not necessarily done in a seedy, sexual way. Your best spenders will be people that are in love with you.”

But there are a lot of men with low self-esteem…

“I think a lot of the men pursue me or others like me because it’s an ego boost. They love the ego to be stroked, and that’s one of the biggest things about what we do—you can never really be fully honest with the guy. Guys are so easily led when it comes to stroking their ego.”

To the modern man, sex workers are the new therapists…

“Sometimes it’s the only time that guys will be asked how they are or have deep chats. I think that’s why a lot of them get confusingly wrapped up in it, because they’re feeling real feelings in a transactional situation. They will tell us things they’ve never told anyone else. Some guys are really going through a tough time and, through the element of sex, they’re able to chat deeply.”

Some men are just generous… 

“A lot of the people who pay for services, they’re not even necessarily doing it with the expectation of receiving anything back. A lot of them are just really generous people, and they enjoy being generous. It’s more like a sugar daddy scenario.”

Guys want to submit to feminine energy…

“A lot of guys want to worship and sort of idolize the feminine energy. We live in a masculine culture, and a lot of guys just want to indulge in the feminine and worship a woman for once.”

A lot of men are deluded…

“A darker side to the psychology is that a lot of the time, guys who are regular customers are almost living in an alternative reality. They’re sort of in a level of psychosis where they’re transfixed by you. They make up this reality within their head where they’re almost not thinking straight, because they’re so indulged in it.”

Some men enjoy being manipulated…

“Some are aware of that, others less so. Men enjoy just being wrapped up in the fantasy of it.”

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It all started when the guy had “vigorous” sex with his wife after a meal, as reported in the NY Post. And then he started vomiting and had severe diarrhea. And then his penis started swelling, and reddening, and scabbing. This went on for about a week before he had enough. The 38-year-old Lebanese man sought treatment from the American University of Beirut Medical Center.

After taking a swab of his swollen and scabby penis, the doctors found Bacillus cereus, a type of bacteria commonly associated with food poisoning. Specifically, the kind of bacteria that develops on cooked rice that’s been left out too long. The phenomenon of rice becoming contaminated with bacteria that can make you sick actually has a nickname. It’s called Fried Rice Syndrome. It’s not usually found in a penis.

The doctors aren’t totally sure as to how this happened, but they have some theories. They are, of course, disgusting, so this is your last chance to step away from this article. You could read about how a little lost penguin was found. You could learn about the first-ever Pokémon card. You could watch Greek villagers throw thousands of rockets at each other. Or you could read this:

The doctors suspect that during sexual intercourse, his penis somehow came into contact with his own vomit and/or diarrhea. 

That, combined with the “vigorous” sex, may have caused increased blood flow and thus more potential for infection. If all of this sounds too crazy to be true, it was actually reported in an official medical journal called The Annals of Medicine and Surgery. The peer review process means other researchers will now verify its veracity. But so far this sounds pretty official and horrifying.

Doctors prescribed a topical antibiotic that the man was told to apply three times a day after washing and gently drying his penis. The infection is now gone, and his penis is back to its old self. Let this be a reminder not to put your penis anywhere near your own vomit and diarrhea—during sex or otherwise.

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Part of its visibility comes from the term “boy sober,” coined on TikTok by a woman named Hope Woodard. In one video, she outlined the rules: No dating apps, no dating, no situationships, no “xoxoxo.” 

In interviews as the whole “boy sober” thing blew up, Woodard explained that the idea was for women to take the time to focus on themselves—distraction-free—and reflect on their dating lifestyle. Essentially, it is for young women to reclaim their bodily and sexual autonomy.

The hashtag #celibacyjourney has nearly 40 million views on TikTok. But is the celibacy and abstinence part just memes, or actually something young women are consciously choosing?

Today, a new survey conducted by the dating app BLK found that 64 percent of Black Gen Z women say they are “currently practicing celibacy.” 

“What we’re seeing with Black Gen Z singles is more than just a dating trend—it’s a movement towards personal empowerment and emotional well-being,” said Jonathan Kirkland, the app’s head of brand and marketing, in a story on Essence.

The numbers in the BLK survey speak to that: 61 percent of respondents said they were celibate for personal growth or self-discovery, and 66 percent said that their mental and emotional well-being had improved due to celibacy. Interestingly, 87 percent said celibacy had positively impacted their dating life or at least had a neutral effect.

Bumble, another dating app, tried to take the opposite tact earlier this year with billboards reading, “A vow of celibacy is not the answer.” They ended up removing the ads and apologizing amid the backlash.

Other surveys suggest that short-term flings and one-night stands are taking a back seat. In 2022, a survey by the popular sex toy retailer Lovehoney and the Kinsey Institute found that 1 in 4 Gen Z adults said they “have yet to have partnered sex.” Meanwhile, this spring, the CDC said sexual activity among teens is decreasing year over year.

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